Sexual Healing

There is an article in the May issue of Cosmopolitan magazine called the "Secrets of Sexual Attraction" that attempts to explain why women are drawn to certain guys, and also why men are attracted to certain types of women. I didn’t read the article and probably won’t.

This morning Cosmopolitan Editor-in-Chief Kate White talked with CBS The Early Show co-anchor Julie Chen about the mysteries of sex appeal.

Kate White stated that there are four major types of sexual attraction: Instant Attraction, Opposites Attract, The Power of Scent and Slow-Burn Love. The most interesting of the four is “The Power of Scent”. The power of scent does not refer to the cologne that we wear or our normal body odors, but to our pheromones. White said "Well, it's not a scent we can actually smell, but we give off pheromones. They signal our reproductive potential. Other people pick them up from us and vice versa. You may find yourself attracted to a guy. You have no clue why. It's because on some level, you like his smell, his scent, and his pheromones."

I must have been putting out a lot of pheromones between 12 and 25 years ago. As women who were 12 to 21 years younger than me displayed an interest in having sex with me. I always thought that their interest in me was because of my agile mind and quick wit. They were all of prime “birthin’ babies” age, so I did the logical thing and had a vasectomy. This destroyed my relationship with two of these women after they discovered that I could not produce any more offspring. So there might actually be something to this Pheromone thing after all.

One of my former younger lovers had a subscription to Cosmo. I must admit that I love their cover girls and had occasionally read an article or two in each issue. Being a man, I rather look at the pictures. Pictures say 1000 words.

Look at the magazine cover above, the lead story is "Ten Things that Guys Crave in Bed". If a woman can not figure this out by herself she is in big trouble with the opposite sex. Normal men usually have only one thing on their minds when they are awake and in bed with a woman. And it is not what they will have for lunch tomorrow or a chocolate chip cookie.

Most of the articles in Cosmo are about finding and getting the right man, seducing the right man, keeping the right man, satisfying (I really liked these articles) the right man and tips on how to make yourself more attractive (via makeup and clothing) to the right man. In my opinion most of it is pure BS. I can't believe that intelligent women buy into this scenario.

I do believe that most of the Cosmo articles are written and edited by women who have no idea whatsoever about the male Psyche. I also believe that I am an average guy and that I think like an average guy. I know what I like. Years ago I read an article in Cosmo on how to “Keep Your Man Happy in Bed”. I was surprised at what I read. I don’t really remember what exactly was written on the subject, but I do recall it was incongruous with my thinking of a good time in bed.

To me it is a very simple process; I believe that a woman should initiate the process of making love, whether or not she is “in the mood”. Then you touch one another like it was the first time you have ever touched, whisper gently into your partners ear, kiss every part of you partners body and then have reciprocal oral sex. At this point you are making love and not just having gratuitous sex. You have to make it feel like the “First Time” every time. This applies to both men and women.

I remember the first love of my life; we never made love we just had sloppy sex. We were young and foolish and there were no magazines like Cosmopolitan to guide us in the right or wrong direction. Ignorance is bliss.

The Beach Bum